I remain committed to my happiness project and this month’s focus is all about my funny Valentine. I’m upping my game on my marriage.
My husband is a wonderful man. Like so many (ALL) of us, he isn’t perfect, but he is the answer to my prayers. He is a Godly and humble man with a positive outlook. He would lay down his life for his family and will do anything to serve or protect us. He is smart, capable, considerate, selfless and funny. He has a level of integrity that continues to amaze and inspire me and at 48, he is still a total hunk. What’s not to love?
He deserves a month of extreme good-wife-y-ness and I’m going to give it to him. Here are my new habits for February.
- Don’t nag, my schedule isn’t his schedule. He is going to do it when he is going to do it. I tend to notice a task needs to be done around the house and I ask him to do it without respecting what he’s doing. We talked about creating a better system to get things done and settled on communicating about the honey-do list via email. I’m pleased with the results so far.
- Check in each day via a text, email or phone call. My husband and I have very similar, self-sufficient personalities and we don’t need to talk several times a day. But a phone call or text to say I’m thinking of you would be a bright spot in the day. I need all of the bright spots I can get!
- Show affection coming and going. Hugs and kisses hello and goodbye are such an easy thing. I realized a few weeks ago that somehow this had become a not every day thing. It is back on the everyday list now.
- Make him laugh. We have always had similar senses of humor and we find the same things funny. I’ve challenged myself to share/do/observe something chuckle-worthy every day. I also, make it a point to laugh at his or my son’s jokes. The sound of all of us laughing is music to my ears.
- Choose grace. My significant other has his moments. Trust me, I’m no picnic either. For the month of February, I’m burning my membership card to the legion of the easily offended and am biting my tongue. I don’t care what he says or does, I’m going to react with grace, humor or worst case scenario walking into another room.
- Just do it. I admit that I am guilty of procrastinating when my hubby asks me to or suggests I do something. “I’m so busy” has been a handy excuse to ignore requests. I’m focusing on doing it as soon as he asks and with a smile.
- Listen and give him my full attention when he’s talking. I am sure I am not the only one who sits with the laptop open and pounds away at the keys thinking I’m somehow participating in family life. I miss a lot doing this. On all fronts.
- No complaining. My husband is an amazing cook and cooks me dinner almost every night (I am the primary breadwinner). However, some nights I turn my nose up at the dinner I didn’t have to lift a finger to prepare. Too fattening! We just had that! So ungrateful, That is just bad form. Another thing I complain about is his questionable taste in television shows. Why are reality shows based in Alaska so popular all of a sudden? I don’t win the battle for the remote control anyway, so I’m not going to complain about it.
- Praise him. This is an easy one. He does great things every day. I’m proud of the man he is every day. Consciously expressing it makes me happy.
- Serve him. My husband is a true renaissance man and he can do just about anything. He can cook, manage our finances, install new flooring and carry a new toilet up 2 flights of stairs so when he needs me to help him, I will be his willing and eager helper. I am committed to proactively finding ways to serve him and lighten his load.